My mom always told me my father had left us, so when he died when I was 17, I believed I wasn\u2019t wanted and didn\u2019t even attend his funeral. The next day, a lawyer contacted me with an urgent file my father had left behind. Inside was a letter explaining that my mother\u2019s wealthy family had used their connections and money to keep him away from me, burying him in legal paperwork until he could no longer afford to fight. He had never stopped trying. Diagnosed with a terminal illness five months earlier, he feared contacting me could violate the restraining order, so he wrote everything down and instructed his lawyer to give it to me after his death. The file also contained birthday letters, photos, and proof that every year he bought a cake and celebrated as if I were there. I had spent my life believing my father abandoned me, only to discover that he had been defeated, not absent\u2014and had quietly loved me every year he was denied the chance to be my dad. READ MORE BELOW <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
My mom always told me my father had left us, so when he died when I was 17, I believed I wasn\u2019t wanted and didn\u2019t even attend… <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":21482,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21481","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-story"],"yoast_head":"\n